Affair Relationships - You Are Going to Fail a Relationship - Which One Will it Be?

Affair relationships often lead to new affairs once this one becomes a marriage. So before you decide to fail your marriage with your current spouse you should take a long hard look at the issues before you.

Think about the relationship built around an affair; both of you are lying to and cheating on your current spouses. One or both of you may be lying to each other right now.

Do you agree a strong relationship and even a marriage are based on trust, then how well do you think you and your adulterous partner are going to be able to establish trust between each other?

Maybe you can overcome that. At least for a while. What happens once the excitement of someone new and the "danger" of the affair wear off and you two are involved in a plain old marriage complete with bills to pay?

The relationship with your current spouse probably started out hot and exciting too, but look where it is now.

Affair relationships and children.

How about children, any kids involved? I am sure neither of you wants to hurt your own or each others kids in any way. While they may overcome your part in the affair they seldom warm up to the new partner, but instead tend to blame him or her for taking you away from the other parent.

I do not recommend staying in a bad marriage just because there are kids, but I do suggest taking them into consideration.

Even if there are no children, you still have to make a break in your marriage to continue with the new person or you have to break off the affair and decide to concentrate on and save your marriage.

Both relationships are not going to last, you know that.

Think about it, do you still love your spouse? Is your marriage worth saving? Are there any reasons to definitely end your marriage? What about the spouse of the person you are cheating with, are you more compatible with his or her spouse than they are?

If you feel your marriage is over with, then you need to address that and let your spouse know how you feel. Leave the affair out of it for now, your spouse may be hurt enough just to know you want a divorce when maybe he or she does not. No need to add insult to injury.