Infidelity is on the rise. We hear about it more and more each day, especially from celebrities. Many people, when you think about cheating spouses, automatically think that it is a husband cheating on a wife. This, however, is not always the case.
Men are not the only philanderers. Women are also committing adultery. In fact, some studies suggest that almost 50% of married women have had sex outside of their marriage. Cookie Magazine did a study back in May that found 34% of moms admitted to having an affair after they had children, and another 53% say they have thought seriously about having an affair.
This says that it's not just men having affairs. We hear all of the time about why men affairs, but women having affairs never seems to be a focus. So, why do women have affairs?
Women Cheat For Emotional Reasons
Whether it's a lack of communication in their marriage, a need for an emotional connection they are not receiving, or just the desire to feel wanted and beautiful, women are cheating to fill emotional voids their husbands have left them with.
Women also crave the need for security. Men are the blanket that provides this security, and if you as a husband aren't satisfying this need, she will seek it elsewhere. As women age, they tend to feel less and less secure. They begin to question the way they look, feel less attractive, and unable to do things they did when they were younger. Even if these things aren't true, women tend to convince themselves that they are.
If you are not reassuring your wife that she is beautiful and important to you, you are putting your relationship at risk.
Other Reasons Women Cheat
*Sense of Loneliness
*Insecurity
*Disappointment with their spouse
*Depression
*Lack of Romance
Profile of a Female Cheater
Now that we've covered some reasons why women cheat, lets profile the typical female philanderer.
*Women tend to choose partners who are also married. This offers some safety for them, as they have less of a concern to worry about STD's. They also don't have to worry about the "secret" getting out, as the married man also would have no benefit of leaking the truth. Last, it puts a limit on the amount of time they can spend with their lover if he is also married.
*Women who cheat on their spouse are more likely to be a full-time worker. Men in the workplace can tend to make the women feel important, if she is doing a good job, notice the woman, and take an interest in her.
*Women don't jump into affairs. They tend to know the person they are cheating with for a couple of months or more before they actually cheat on their spouse. This proves the stat from Cookie Magazine that 53% of married women with children say they've contemplated an affair.
*They don't always want a "bad boy". In fact, They are looking for the "ideal husband", someone who can provide the security, communication, financial, and emotional needs they currently lack.
Myths About Adultery
As you learn more and more about affairs, you will begin to understand their true meaning and place for existence. You will also be able to dispel some common myths.
1. An affair can help your troubled marriage. No, it cannot help. It will only worsen the problems you are already having. What it can do is open your spouse's eyes to the trouble and ignite a plan to address those problems.
2. Bad Sex Causes People to Have an Affair. No, this is not true either. Sex is just that, sex. It is all the same, really, until you add emotion to it. Sex can become worse if one person feels it is a problem, an insecurity, and begins to turn sex into what it never should be, a performance. Great sex comes from sharing yourself, mentally and emotionally, with your partner, which creates a deep trust between the two of you.
3. Affairs Can Last Forever. False. Affairs die for the same reasons marriages do, the lack of intimacy. If you are having an affair and think it is a wonderful relationship, it is because you are hiding the imperfections from one another. You never truly get to know the real person you are with. If you care enough about getting to know someone, get to know your spouse. Affairs lack the emotion necessary to sustain long term.
What To Do If You Are Tempted To Cheat
I hope you are not tempted to cheat, but if you are, think about it first. Typically when you have this feeling, there are problems going on in your relationship. Try addressing those problems and see if you and your spouse can work through them.
Learn to communicate better with your spouse. Create a transparency, where you know everything about your spouse, and they know everything about you. Spend time together every day, and learn something new about them. Find new activities that you both can enjoy together. Never stop dating your spouse!
Women really crave the emotional things, so men really need to work at giving them those things. If you are a women, you need to share with your husband what you are craving and lacking. If you are a man, work on satisfying those needs. If you do, you can live a happy marriage together!
Rabu, 27 September 2017
Rabu, 06 September 2017
Married Women's Affairs - 5 Types Of Affairs & What The Husband Can Do About It
For the married woman and married man, the vows made on their wedding day included the promise to be faithful to each other. And, there is no doubt that the vast majority of people who get married do so with the express intention of keeping that promise.
Unfortunately, it is clear that in reality, not everyone does keep their wedding vow promises. Many people will admit in private to having had one or more affairs while married. And, many others never get caught but are being unfaithful to their spouses just the same.
For a husband who suspects his wife is having an affair - or who even has evidence that an affair has been going on lately - the whole experience is quite painful and humiliating. After all, a married man expects his wife to "have his back." Meaning: she is to look out for him and protect him, just as he is supposed to do for her. They have a bond of trust that both are supposed to respect.
Obviously, an affair is a direct and explicit betrayal of that bond of trust. And, nothing hurts quite as much as being cheated on by the person we are supposed to be able to trust the most.
There are many types of married women's affairs, each with its own unique characteristics. Here are 5 types of affairs and what the husband can do about it:
1. Heavy flirting:
Almost every married person innocently flirts just a bit now and then. Very mild flirting may even actually be healthy for a relationship. However, when it crosses into heavy flirting, it has gone too far. Heavy flirting is when someone goes out of their way to spend time with someone just to flirt, and they do it frequently and for long periods of time. This is technically not an affair, but it puts the person on that path.
2. Going out socially after work or on business trips:
The next stage of an affair is when your wife starts going out with co-workers (or fellow members of an organization to which she belongs) socially on a regular basis, either after work or while on business trips.
3. Emotional affair:
Next, we have what is becoming commonly termed an "emotional affair." This is whereby two people actually fall in love - or at least very deep like - with each other and spend a lot of time together. The feelings are 100% romantic, but the relationship lacks a physical component.
4. One-night stand:
At this point, an affair has become even more serious because it turns physical or sexual. While many people only consider this and #5 below to be a "true" affair (as compared to #1-#3 above), each of the other types of milder affairs listed above can easily lead up to this.
5. Long-term affair:
Any sexual affair that goes on for months or years would be considered a long-term affair. While each type of affair listed here can seriously damage a marital relationship, a long-term affair is likely to do the most damage.
What To Do As The Husband
As the husband of a woman who seems to be engaged currently in at least one of these types of affairs, you need to immediately take control of the situation. While you cannot control your wife or her actions, you can control how you respond to the situation.
You need to start by honoring your own feelings - which no doubt are varied and complicated - about this issue. Then, you should put together a plan to either end your marriage or to find a way to rebuild the relationship with your wife to back to one of trust and love again.
Remember, no matter what, the worst thing you can do is nothing. So, take control.
Unfortunately, it is clear that in reality, not everyone does keep their wedding vow promises. Many people will admit in private to having had one or more affairs while married. And, many others never get caught but are being unfaithful to their spouses just the same.
For a husband who suspects his wife is having an affair - or who even has evidence that an affair has been going on lately - the whole experience is quite painful and humiliating. After all, a married man expects his wife to "have his back." Meaning: she is to look out for him and protect him, just as he is supposed to do for her. They have a bond of trust that both are supposed to respect.
Obviously, an affair is a direct and explicit betrayal of that bond of trust. And, nothing hurts quite as much as being cheated on by the person we are supposed to be able to trust the most.
There are many types of married women's affairs, each with its own unique characteristics. Here are 5 types of affairs and what the husband can do about it:
1. Heavy flirting:
Almost every married person innocently flirts just a bit now and then. Very mild flirting may even actually be healthy for a relationship. However, when it crosses into heavy flirting, it has gone too far. Heavy flirting is when someone goes out of their way to spend time with someone just to flirt, and they do it frequently and for long periods of time. This is technically not an affair, but it puts the person on that path.
2. Going out socially after work or on business trips:
The next stage of an affair is when your wife starts going out with co-workers (or fellow members of an organization to which she belongs) socially on a regular basis, either after work or while on business trips.
3. Emotional affair:
Next, we have what is becoming commonly termed an "emotional affair." This is whereby two people actually fall in love - or at least very deep like - with each other and spend a lot of time together. The feelings are 100% romantic, but the relationship lacks a physical component.
4. One-night stand:
At this point, an affair has become even more serious because it turns physical or sexual. While many people only consider this and #5 below to be a "true" affair (as compared to #1-#3 above), each of the other types of milder affairs listed above can easily lead up to this.
5. Long-term affair:
Any sexual affair that goes on for months or years would be considered a long-term affair. While each type of affair listed here can seriously damage a marital relationship, a long-term affair is likely to do the most damage.
What To Do As The Husband
As the husband of a woman who seems to be engaged currently in at least one of these types of affairs, you need to immediately take control of the situation. While you cannot control your wife or her actions, you can control how you respond to the situation.
You need to start by honoring your own feelings - which no doubt are varied and complicated - about this issue. Then, you should put together a plan to either end your marriage or to find a way to rebuild the relationship with your wife to back to one of trust and love again.
Remember, no matter what, the worst thing you can do is nothing. So, take control.
Selasa, 22 Agustus 2017
Extramarital Affair: Should You Get A Divorce Just Because One Of You Had An Extramarital Affair?
Having to deal with an extramarital affair can be a life-changing event, regardless of whether you stay married or not. Inescapable feelings can come over both people who live through an extramarital affair that will never be forgotten by either of them. The person who actually had the extramarital affair can have feelings of guilt, loneliness, confusion and misdirection along with many other feelings. The 'partner' who did not have the extramarital affair can have these feelings as well, but the lack of confidence that can come as a result of the other person having an extramarital affair can be one of the toughest parts to deal with.
The feelings that come as a result of one or both parties having an extramarital affair are natural but can also be extensions of something much deeper. Of course, if someone has an extramarital affair, both people in that marriage will have feelings that will be "surface level" only at first. Arguments can occur, denial may set in, and/or tempers can flare due to the extramarital affair. While these things are only natural and to be expected, if your going to actually survive an extramarital affair, you must look at the deeper issues and get down to the real cause of the affair and what to do about it.
People in marriages don't often look at having extramarital affairs lightly, and they realize most times what affects their actions will have on their marriage. If someone has an extramarital affair and doesn't think that it will have an affect on their marriage, surely they are either in denial or their definition of marriage leans strongly towards the "open" side. For the rest of the married crowd who don't subscribe to an "open" marriage and who have to deal with an extramarital affair, things can get a bit more complex.
Complexity can be interesting no doubt, but it can also add to the confusion of someone having an extramarital affair, especially if the couple or one party in that couple wants to look deeper at the situation and figure out two very important things:
Extramarital Affair Item 1:
Why did the extramarital affair happen?
Extramarital Affair Item 2:
Does the fact that there was an extramarital affair in the marriage really warrant getting a divorce when both people agree upon the reason that the extramarital affair happened in the first place?
If the couple really wants to save their marriage in spite of the extramarital affair, then finding out why the extramarital affair happened and agreeing on that reason is the first step in the healing process. If you are currently trying to save your marriage and one of you had an extramarital affair, try to limit your pain that you feel and talk things out with your spouse so you can clearly define and agree upon exactly why the extramarital affair took place.
If you cannot do this, chances are you will never get over the extramarital affair and your marriage most likely won't survive...or at least you won't have a healthy marriage after the extramarital affair.
After you have defined and agreed upon the reason that the extramarital affair took place, you must decide whether that reasons (or reasons) warrant actually going through a painful divorce. At this point you have 2 choices...either decide in your own or decide with your spouse. The latter is optimal for a variety of reasons but the main reason is that you may actually save your marriage if you decide together. Deciding together whether the real reason an extramarital affair took place indicates that you're both really reaching out for something, something you most likely didn't have prior to the extramarital affair...togetherness.
The feelings that come as a result of one or both parties having an extramarital affair are natural but can also be extensions of something much deeper. Of course, if someone has an extramarital affair, both people in that marriage will have feelings that will be "surface level" only at first. Arguments can occur, denial may set in, and/or tempers can flare due to the extramarital affair. While these things are only natural and to be expected, if your going to actually survive an extramarital affair, you must look at the deeper issues and get down to the real cause of the affair and what to do about it.
People in marriages don't often look at having extramarital affairs lightly, and they realize most times what affects their actions will have on their marriage. If someone has an extramarital affair and doesn't think that it will have an affect on their marriage, surely they are either in denial or their definition of marriage leans strongly towards the "open" side. For the rest of the married crowd who don't subscribe to an "open" marriage and who have to deal with an extramarital affair, things can get a bit more complex.
Complexity can be interesting no doubt, but it can also add to the confusion of someone having an extramarital affair, especially if the couple or one party in that couple wants to look deeper at the situation and figure out two very important things:
Extramarital Affair Item 1:
Why did the extramarital affair happen?
Extramarital Affair Item 2:
Does the fact that there was an extramarital affair in the marriage really warrant getting a divorce when both people agree upon the reason that the extramarital affair happened in the first place?
If the couple really wants to save their marriage in spite of the extramarital affair, then finding out why the extramarital affair happened and agreeing on that reason is the first step in the healing process. If you are currently trying to save your marriage and one of you had an extramarital affair, try to limit your pain that you feel and talk things out with your spouse so you can clearly define and agree upon exactly why the extramarital affair took place.
If you cannot do this, chances are you will never get over the extramarital affair and your marriage most likely won't survive...or at least you won't have a healthy marriage after the extramarital affair.
After you have defined and agreed upon the reason that the extramarital affair took place, you must decide whether that reasons (or reasons) warrant actually going through a painful divorce. At this point you have 2 choices...either decide in your own or decide with your spouse. The latter is optimal for a variety of reasons but the main reason is that you may actually save your marriage if you decide together. Deciding together whether the real reason an extramarital affair took place indicates that you're both really reaching out for something, something you most likely didn't have prior to the extramarital affair...togetherness.
Sabtu, 05 Agustus 2017
Current Affairs News Online - Information About The World Available At Your Home
News can be transmitted faster through technology all over the world.
People can have complete control of what news they want to read about. Traditional newspapers convey local news more than international news while online newspapers from different countries can be accessed for free through the internet. There are many advantages for people to convert reading from traditional newspapers to online newspapers.
Any news around the world can be published online within a matter of few seconds. People can be more updated with the help of online newspapers. Current affairs news can be viewed immediately through the internet rather than waiting for a day in order to read it on the printed newspapers.
The online newspapers are updated every few minutes and the headlines keeps changing as and when new incidents occur in the world.
Most of the news that is available online is free of cost. People only need a computer and internet connection for browsing through the world news.
It is easy and convenient to read news online and people can multitask while they read online newspaper.
With the help of technology, customization of the news can be done. People, who are interested only in certain sections of news like business news or Sports News, can be provided with options on the website to display only that specific section instead of the entire newspaper.
Certain websites provide the viewers with the ability to discuss the news and events of the world among the peers. The interaction while reading news can make it more interesting.
Different viewpoints can be discussed by people all over the world for specific news.
The online newspapers provide the medium for the society to communicate back to the media. It can help them improve their ways of publishing news.
As traditional newspapers are printed on papers, the invention of online newspapers helps to create a greener environment by preserving the trees that are used for papers.
Purchasing newspapers can use up plenty of time and money which can be minimized by reading online newspapers.
Any news from all over the world can be viewed with just one click of the mouse from the comfort of each person's home.
People can have complete control of what news they want to read about. Traditional newspapers convey local news more than international news while online newspapers from different countries can be accessed for free through the internet. There are many advantages for people to convert reading from traditional newspapers to online newspapers.
Any news around the world can be published online within a matter of few seconds. People can be more updated with the help of online newspapers. Current affairs news can be viewed immediately through the internet rather than waiting for a day in order to read it on the printed newspapers.
The online newspapers are updated every few minutes and the headlines keeps changing as and when new incidents occur in the world.
Most of the news that is available online is free of cost. People only need a computer and internet connection for browsing through the world news.
It is easy and convenient to read news online and people can multitask while they read online newspaper.
With the help of technology, customization of the news can be done. People, who are interested only in certain sections of news like business news or Sports News, can be provided with options on the website to display only that specific section instead of the entire newspaper.
Certain websites provide the viewers with the ability to discuss the news and events of the world among the peers. The interaction while reading news can make it more interesting.
Different viewpoints can be discussed by people all over the world for specific news.
The online newspapers provide the medium for the society to communicate back to the media. It can help them improve their ways of publishing news.
As traditional newspapers are printed on papers, the invention of online newspapers helps to create a greener environment by preserving the trees that are used for papers.
Purchasing newspapers can use up plenty of time and money which can be minimized by reading online newspapers.
Any news from all over the world can be viewed with just one click of the mouse from the comfort of each person's home.
Senin, 24 Juli 2017
Online Affairs Bring the Most Spiteful Emotional Adultery
Emotional adultery is a torturous experience. Seeing the person you poured all your heart into suddenly lose all affection towards you is a rather painful thing. Online affairs have been rampant nowadays, accounting for a lot of cases of separation and divorce and each has gone through a painstaking course of emotional adultery.
The thought of being replaced is hurtful enough but being replaced by someone who didn't invest as much time, physical effort, concern and love as you did is very weakening. This makes online affairs the source of the most hurtful emotional adultery.
What Constitutes Emotional Adultery?
(1) Withdrawal
A person that commits emotional adultery becomes withdrawn. He or she feels and looks detached from you and your relationship. That partner has found something that he/she didn't find in the current relationship and that something could be the fulfillment of an utmost desire. When such thing happens, the partner feels unsatisfied and gloomy. They would feel gloomy because they discovered they could find a better kind of relationship out there and they're not in it because they are with you. In their mind their partners are not the victim, they are. So they sulk in one corner and feel sorry that they have to be cheating to be happy. They suddenly change. Their sexual desires towards you become very low on top of the indifferences he/she could start to show. Online affairs are not initially that serious, but they could become one if a person finds a match that entices her whole being.
(2) Guilt
Guilt is a constant thing in a person's life. A person committing emotional adultery feels more guilt than a person committing a full-blown adultery. This is because there is still a part of them that is very much attached to the current relationship. Guilt is the reason that a cheating partner suddenly assumes a secretive behavior.
(3) Secretive behavior.
Secretive behaviors happen when a partner feels guilt. Almost all of us wouldn't want to be caught cheating because we don't want anyone to get hurt. Emotional adultery is felt and seen by the way a partner behaves but it is not always conclusive. Being secretive with your partners makes you act unusually different and these changes in behavior unintentionally or intentionally poses as emotional adultery.
It is really hard to accept emotional adultery due to an online affair. It is opposed to the standard norms of relationship; physically cheating would be more acceptable rather than cheating online. It is more understandable for an extra marital affair to occur as a result of a physical temptation rather than what is brought about by a fling over the internet. It is indeed baffling and very maddening to see signs of an affair online.
In general, emotional adultery defines what is so called as "relationship on the rocks"; the confusing and unfortunate events that embody a relationship that is going down the hill. For whatever reason, emotional adultery is half-meant. It is a period in the relationship where both parties need to assess the relationship and mend what is broken. Whether a partner is cheating or not, emotional adultery happens when there is a problem in a relationship. For most, it's the lack of openness that leads to infidelity and eventually a breakup. Before starting to investigate a partner, address the problems of your relationship first because if you do catch a spouse cheating, it'll be more likely that your partner would tell you it's been your fault all along. So find your faults first.
The thought of being replaced is hurtful enough but being replaced by someone who didn't invest as much time, physical effort, concern and love as you did is very weakening. This makes online affairs the source of the most hurtful emotional adultery.
What Constitutes Emotional Adultery?
(1) Withdrawal
A person that commits emotional adultery becomes withdrawn. He or she feels and looks detached from you and your relationship. That partner has found something that he/she didn't find in the current relationship and that something could be the fulfillment of an utmost desire. When such thing happens, the partner feels unsatisfied and gloomy. They would feel gloomy because they discovered they could find a better kind of relationship out there and they're not in it because they are with you. In their mind their partners are not the victim, they are. So they sulk in one corner and feel sorry that they have to be cheating to be happy. They suddenly change. Their sexual desires towards you become very low on top of the indifferences he/she could start to show. Online affairs are not initially that serious, but they could become one if a person finds a match that entices her whole being.
(2) Guilt
Guilt is a constant thing in a person's life. A person committing emotional adultery feels more guilt than a person committing a full-blown adultery. This is because there is still a part of them that is very much attached to the current relationship. Guilt is the reason that a cheating partner suddenly assumes a secretive behavior.
(3) Secretive behavior.
Secretive behaviors happen when a partner feels guilt. Almost all of us wouldn't want to be caught cheating because we don't want anyone to get hurt. Emotional adultery is felt and seen by the way a partner behaves but it is not always conclusive. Being secretive with your partners makes you act unusually different and these changes in behavior unintentionally or intentionally poses as emotional adultery.
It is really hard to accept emotional adultery due to an online affair. It is opposed to the standard norms of relationship; physically cheating would be more acceptable rather than cheating online. It is more understandable for an extra marital affair to occur as a result of a physical temptation rather than what is brought about by a fling over the internet. It is indeed baffling and very maddening to see signs of an affair online.
In general, emotional adultery defines what is so called as "relationship on the rocks"; the confusing and unfortunate events that embody a relationship that is going down the hill. For whatever reason, emotional adultery is half-meant. It is a period in the relationship where both parties need to assess the relationship and mend what is broken. Whether a partner is cheating or not, emotional adultery happens when there is a problem in a relationship. For most, it's the lack of openness that leads to infidelity and eventually a breakup. Before starting to investigate a partner, address the problems of your relationship first because if you do catch a spouse cheating, it'll be more likely that your partner would tell you it's been your fault all along. So find your faults first.
Minggu, 09 Juli 2017
Affair Relationships - You Are Going to Fail a Relationship - Which One Will it Be?
Affair relationships often lead to new affairs once this one becomes a marriage. So before you decide to fail your marriage with your current spouse you should take a long hard look at the issues before you.
Think about the relationship built around an affair; both of you are lying to and cheating on your current spouses. One or both of you may be lying to each other right now.
Do you agree a strong relationship and even a marriage are based on trust, then how well do you think you and your adulterous partner are going to be able to establish trust between each other?
Maybe you can overcome that. At least for a while. What happens once the excitement of someone new and the "danger" of the affair wear off and you two are involved in a plain old marriage complete with bills to pay?
The relationship with your current spouse probably started out hot and exciting too, but look where it is now.
Affair relationships and children.
How about children, any kids involved? I am sure neither of you wants to hurt your own or each others kids in any way. While they may overcome your part in the affair they seldom warm up to the new partner, but instead tend to blame him or her for taking you away from the other parent.
I do not recommend staying in a bad marriage just because there are kids, but I do suggest taking them into consideration.
Even if there are no children, you still have to make a break in your marriage to continue with the new person or you have to break off the affair and decide to concentrate on and save your marriage.
Both relationships are not going to last, you know that.
Think about it, do you still love your spouse? Is your marriage worth saving? Are there any reasons to definitely end your marriage? What about the spouse of the person you are cheating with, are you more compatible with his or her spouse than they are?
If you feel your marriage is over with, then you need to address that and let your spouse know how you feel. Leave the affair out of it for now, your spouse may be hurt enough just to know you want a divorce when maybe he or she does not. No need to add insult to injury.
Think about the relationship built around an affair; both of you are lying to and cheating on your current spouses. One or both of you may be lying to each other right now.
Do you agree a strong relationship and even a marriage are based on trust, then how well do you think you and your adulterous partner are going to be able to establish trust between each other?
Maybe you can overcome that. At least for a while. What happens once the excitement of someone new and the "danger" of the affair wear off and you two are involved in a plain old marriage complete with bills to pay?
The relationship with your current spouse probably started out hot and exciting too, but look where it is now.
Affair relationships and children.
How about children, any kids involved? I am sure neither of you wants to hurt your own or each others kids in any way. While they may overcome your part in the affair they seldom warm up to the new partner, but instead tend to blame him or her for taking you away from the other parent.
I do not recommend staying in a bad marriage just because there are kids, but I do suggest taking them into consideration.
Even if there are no children, you still have to make a break in your marriage to continue with the new person or you have to break off the affair and decide to concentrate on and save your marriage.
Both relationships are not going to last, you know that.
Think about it, do you still love your spouse? Is your marriage worth saving? Are there any reasons to definitely end your marriage? What about the spouse of the person you are cheating with, are you more compatible with his or her spouse than they are?
If you feel your marriage is over with, then you need to address that and let your spouse know how you feel. Leave the affair out of it for now, your spouse may be hurt enough just to know you want a divorce when maybe he or she does not. No need to add insult to injury.
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